Overeating Due To Regrets & Resentments

Are you taking inventory of where your life is at in this new year?

How are you measuring up?

I know many of you have huge regrets and resentments and sometimes they manifest this time of the year.

 Are you feeling disappointed over these regrets and then you overeat?

What are you regretting?

1. Breaking up with the love of your life or getting dumped by the love of your life?

2. Living the life your parents wanted for you instead of what you wanted?

3. Letting your marriage fall apart?

4. Not burying the hatchet with a family member or friend?

5. Not getting the degree you wanted?

6. Not getting the job you wanted or the promotion you wanted?

7.Choosing the practical job over the one you really wanted?

8. Are you judging yourself and blaming yourself for mistakes and perceived failures?

The past is not really the past if it is on your mind and you carry it around with you.  It will be your future unless you release it.  You are making these regrets part of your present.  You may have feelings of self-loathing, frustration, resentment and disappointment.

These regrets are making you feel miserable and because you feel miserable, you have that urge to overeat.

You did the best you could at the time.  If you could have done better, you would have.

How do you let go of these regrets?

Forgiveness.

The person that most needs your forgiveness is you!

When you carry around resentment you are re-sensing it.  You are feeling the whole experience again.  You are re-living the hurt.

It is like taking poison and expecting someone else to die!

Plus, when you are feeling angry, hurt and disappointed you go towards food to avoid the pain you are feeling.  Then you gain weight and you are more miserable.

There is a better way to handle regrets and resentment.

  • Steps you can take to forgive yourself:
  •  Discovery- own it and become aware of your feelings.
  •  Decision- make the conscious decision, I no longer want this in my life.  I want to move on.  Decide you will let it go.
  • Think about the situation differently and with greater understanding.  Step back and look at the other person’s motivation.
  • You can practice a new mantra:  I forgive myself for __________.

I know this can be challenging.  Here is an example:

I suffered with feeling regretful over this past Christmas.  My regret was over not having children.  I was telling myself things like “what is wrong with you, why didn’t you have children?”, “most normal women have children”, “I am not normal because I chose not to have children”.   I felt like a loser, inadequate, sad and lonely.  I coached myself and had another coach help me see that my thinking was having me feel so awful. 

I changed my thinking to “I made the right decision for me to not have children and I am ok”.  Now, I feel more peaceful and accepting of my situation.  I am not partaking in self-loathing anymore. 

Seeing your situation differently and identifying your thoughts about it is key.  I understand this is not the easiest thing to do on your own.  That’s where I can help you identify what is making for feel regretful and what you can do about it.  We can talk on the phone and I will give you at least one tip to implement immediately.  I call this my Weight Loss Makeover Call.  You will be in the comfort of your own home and we can talk on the phone.  Click here to schedule a time convenient for you.

It’s time to forgive yourself!  You are a beautiful woman and deserve a wonderful life.  😊

Happy New Year, ladies!

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